The Pros and Cons of Mail-Order Brides

While the phenomenon of dating women from abroad may seem as something relatively new, it is way older than a quarter of the century. The origins of international dating dates back to 1800s. The phenomenon was known as mail-order brides. Europeans who traveled to the West managed to find financial success there, but they lacked one thing – love. As life on the American continent was initially hard, only a few women travelled there. As a result, men soon faced the shortage of prospective wives. Men started writing letters to churches in Europe, as well as placing adverts of themselves in newspapers in order to find women who were eager to move to America and marry them. Soon women started placing their adverts in American newspapers. So, what is a mail-order bride? It's a woman that lists herself in catalogs to be selected by a man who wants to find a wife from another country.

While there were no 'dating industry' in the 19^th century, mail-order brides undertook another shape in 20^th century. First, it was Americans searching for women from well-developed European countries, in 20^th century interest of American men has switched to women from developing countries. That switch culminated into online dating sites in the 1990s, which offered Russian mail-order brides.

Are Mail-Order Brides Real?

Of course when you think about mail-order brides, you may suggest that it is way too simple, and too good to be true. When you see all of those online dating sites, you may start wondering “Are mail-order brides real?”. This question comes as a quite logical one. No matter which dating service you are about to pick, you will see thousands of girls from post-Soviet countries that are eager to date and to marry western men. Is it a joke? No. There must be some reason why all of those girls are searching for men from other countries. Well, yes, mail-order brides are real, otherwise how could international dating last for that long? If it was a fraud, it would have died long-long time ago. And, yes, those women have a few reasons why they are looking for foreigners.

The first reason is the lack of men. No, it doesn't mean that there is some awful shortage of men in post-Soviet countries, but there is a terrible lack of 'real men' in those countries. The vast majority of Slavic women are brought up according to strict patriarchal laws, with the exception of Ukrainian mail brides, as Ukraine is a de facto matriarchal country. Women are taught that a man is a central figure in their life, and they must treat their men with respect. But men are a far cry of what can be viewed as an object of respect.

WWII claimed more than 20 million lives of Soviet men, and as a result women start their competition for men. In the 1950s ten girls competing for the attention of one men was a common thing. Men had been spoiled by women and handled them the role of the main family supplier, thus betraying the patriarchal laws, in accordance to which men must be the main family supplier, while woman's duty is housekeeping, cooking, and taking care of children. So, it comes as no surprise that Russian women turn into Russian mail-order brides in order to find 'real men'.

The Pros and Cons of Mail-Order Brides

It is simple, and you know the reason why those women are eager to meet you. Still, before delving into online dating you must learn the pros and cons of mail-order brides.

Accessibility

Thanks to online dating sites, you can get an easy access to numerous prospective partners. Much more than they could ever meet in their real life. Moreover, our busy-scheduled life no longer give us a luxurious possibility to have enough dates to build a strong connection between us and our potential partners. Thus, online dating saves our time.

Multiple Choices

But with the access we face the problem of the multiple choice. Thousands of girls on those dating sites… It makes no surprise that men easily forget their main purpose of using those services. While they go there to find their perfect match, which means finding one girl, they start chatting with a few girls simultaneously. As a result, men stuck on the dating sites without moving any further.

If you don't have any particular idea what kind of girl you want to find and you have problems with concentration, it is better to keep away from online dating services.

Guessing is Over

You often feel confused on the first date with someone, because all of a sudden you can't pick the right words and the right topic to start a conversation. Online dating services give you an opportunity to figure out what kind of person you're going to date. You can spend enough time chatting to understand the girl. You have enough time to figure how much you have in common. Besides, knowing each other mentally helps build an emotional connection, which in terms helps in building healthy relationships. Of course, you may run into online dating swindlers, but it can be easily avoided by sticking with reputable dating agencies.

Language Barrier

It is always better to stick with the girl who knows the language you speak, otherwise you may face communication problems, or even worse, your chatting would be guided by the interpreter, which definitely ruins all the intimacy.

Of course she may be using Google Translate for chatting with you, which will lead to 75% of information being misinterpreted. You may be saying something innocent, and she would think you mean something naughty. She would be saying something serious, and you will laugh because of the errors she (or Google Translate) makes. So, the best way is to stick with those who knows the language well or with someone who's studying language. Helping girl with the language will definitely strengthen your bounds.

Cost of Mail-Order Brides

Not one of the cons, still it is better to get ready to, as Slavic women view presents as the expression of your feelings. You must be ready to send her flowers or some small gifts. Dig internet on this information, you will find a lot of articles with tips what mail-order brides from Slavic countries prefer.