Standards of female beauty don’t change as often as trends in fashion, but they are also unstable. If the second half of the twentieth century was marked by thinness (sometimes even painful), then in the new millennium, the pleasurable fullness became for women, if not an ideal, then at least a norm.
The Western world is gradually approaching the understanding that a healthy lifestyle doesn’t necessarily require the peak fitness of the figure – it's not for nothing that some overweight has been considered a sign of well-being and even success. Today, in a trend is not to follow the ideas invented by someone else, but rather to understand and appreciate your own individuality, both spiritual and physical. Now the plus-size girls are the usual characters on the podium, on the pages of fashion magazines and overweight dating sites.
In society, there is a stereotype that female overweight is bad. This opinion is imposed on both women and men by insidious representatives of the fashion industry, dictating their rules to people. Unfortunately, as a result, we observe that plus-size women start to feel shy, disassociate. Some of them give their body a torture in the form of diets. Men are afraid to admit that they like such girls much more than "skin and bone" because they have fear to be misunderstood by the society and searching overweight dating site on the sly. Sooner or later every curvy woman start thinking of how to date when you are overweight?
Try to show your best qualities – emphasizing your best features will help you look and perceive yourself better. For example, you have amazing almond eyes – underline them with a black or dark blue eyeliner. If you have chiselled lips, use lipstick. Give shape to the eyebrows. All this will not only help you look better, but will also give you confidence in your appearance and future dating online.
Wear your best clothes. You don’t have to buy new clothes if they don’t look like a closet of your lovely granny. You need to emphasize the dignity of your body, so select your favorite outfit and make sure that your clothes fit you perfectly, don’t tighten or look like a bag. If your outfit doesn’t fit well, you will look even heavier and it will be difficult to evaluate your body in all fairness. If necessary, go shopping and choose the right size or even try new styles. Choose a modeling underwear of the appropriate size, if you want to smooth the figure shape. Wear clothes that give you self-confidence and emphasize the advantages of the figure. Don’t forget about your hair, if you are not satisfied with your haircut – try a new hairstyle or changing color.
As a rule, a man evaluates a woman from the general to the particular. So, he estimates the female figure as a whole. Of course, they fall in love not only with a beautiful picture, but also with a beautiful "inner world", but first he has to be attracted by a lovely appearance. And an ample bosom with soft curves of the hips will only strengthen his desire of dating overweight girl.
Thoughts like “What’s going to happen, will happen. I will be here waiting for you” won’t work at the dating websites for overweight. You actually have to do your best (like every other woman) in order to get dates both online and in real life. Start with creating your awesome profile, upload your best photos (it would be better if they have been made by a real photographer), write down a well-crafted text that will show your interests, smart mind and a sense of humor. Try to check in on a regular basis and check best matches and search for online dating, send messages, deal with inbox messages and don’t be afraid of failure.
Just try to do that. Do not complain that you don’t have a boyfriend if you haven’t even tried to do something to attract him. You can also take the first step. It takes some efforts but it is totally worth it in the end. There are many stories of true female and male happiness among those who cannot be called imperfect, it is worth thinking about and perhaps learning from the successful experience of others.
If a person is satisfied with his body and his life, then often he has no reasons to be shy. Self-conscious is most often experienced by people who are constantly unsatisfied with something. Whether it's their body or some personal relationship, maybe something in their life. They just pay a lot of attention to their shortcomings. Sometimes they simply do not notice their advantages with which they are filled and – this is accomplished doesn’t depend on the body size. Make an attractive profile with which you will be satisfied or maybe even proud of.
The truth is that your body and overweight, in fact, disturb only you and maybe several idiots who hide behind their computers, living with the moms in their 40. It all depends on how you look at yourself, whether you accept yourself as you are and whether you love yourself and your body. The attitude of the surrounding people depends on that. In order to love you, you will learn to love yourself first.
This is the secret of success, including among men. Many women do not believe in this or do not understand, spending their time on numerous diets and a gym instead of devoting this time to self-development. They justify such tortures over themselves by another stereotype and consider that men love only with their eyes. Silly and endless question, “Who does want dating overweight women?"
Be prepared that people will lie about their own weight, height, job or whatever in their profiles for overweight dating. Everybody lies. Even if you make some pre-date questions and carry out a research you will still be lied to at some stage. It’s everyone but not just you. The fact that you have a plus size, doesn’t make you less valuable and should not adversely affect your relationship. Your opinion is far from the last. Do not let anyone behave this way with you.
Some guys can stick to you because they think that curvy girls are easily accessible or are some kind of a fetish. Beware of such men. Make it clear that dating someone overweight doesn’t mean you need meaningless relationships.
Openness and self-confidence don’t guarantee you will have a boyfriend, but openness and self-confidence will give you the opportunity to feel comfortable, be happy and find many new friends!
Make online dating rules work for you and find a beloved one who deserves you and your curvy body!