Major Differences between Russian and American Women

Russian women became kind of a dream for a lot of western men. Nowadays a lot of men from Europe and America are in search of a significant other from Russia. But when you ask men why they are into Russian girls, the most typical answer would be "They are beautiful". No analysis of when this Russian-mania started on the dating market. No more or less realistic reasoning.

So, the reason behind men from around the globe going mad about Russian women is the beauty of those Slavic females? While the vast majority of people are going to be satisfied with an explanation like that, it seems too far-fetched. Like there are no beautiful women in Europe or America? The actual explanation is way more complicated.


Why are western men so obsessed with the idea of dating Russian girls? To answer this question properly, we need to delve into history a little bit. We need to figure out when this idea of Russian dating first arrived. Actually, there were too waves of western men's interest in Russian women. And when you evaluate the reasons behind those two waves of interest, you will realize that the role or Russian beauty is less significant than most of the western men thing.

The first wave of interest was caused by mere curiosity because Russian women were something exotic for western men. Some men wanted to marry Russian women as a charity act, as the fall of the Iron Curtain disclosed former Soviet republics in the most lamentable state of economy.

The second wave of interest came much later when men got a deeper understanding of Russian vs American cultural peculiarities. It turned out that there is a significant difference between Russian and American women.

So, if you're interested in women from Russia, you should learn every aspect of Russian girls vs American girls.


The first aspect of Russian women vs American women is the impact of feminism. We all know the most common complaint that western men have about their women. Women in the West are overly emancipated and there are two different ways how men approach it. Half of the men are eager to embrace feminism, while the other half feels quite embarrassed about it. If feminism is reigning in the west for over half a century, things are way different in Russia. Despite all of the feminist movements in the 19th century, Russian girls are a far cry from their western counterparts in terms of emancipation.

American women are emancipated thus they are more career- rather than family-oriented. Women building a successful career are a usual thing in the United States and other western countries. There is an increasing number of families in which a woman takes the role of the main family's supplier, while a man does the housekeeping and babysitting.

The reason why feminism had a lesser impact on Russian women is rooted in their patriarchal upbringing. Girls are taught that the man is the main figure in their life, and their main goal is to become a good wife for her husband.

Still, Russian women have experienced what can be called 'forced emancipation'. According to the official data, over 20 million of Soviet people had been killed during World War II, with a vast majority of them being men. As a result, women were forced to take care of their families on their own. So, a Russian woman became something of a universal soldier, who is able to build her own career and remain a great mother. Of course, this aspect appeals to western men. A woman who is able to provide for herself, but doesn't see it as her main goal in life, and thus is much more interested in family and values her husband.


Dating is another aspect of Russian culture vs American culture. Emancipated and self-sufficient American women often pick up guys without waiting for them to make the first move. Thus, it is much easier to approach them. Still, men who have more traditional view on dating consider this kind of change in relationship not as benefit, but as a declining state of tradition values. When it comes to Russian women dating, things are way too different. Women in Russia are known for their traditional views on dating. If you want to meet a Russian girl in real life after chatting with her, be ready that it won't be an easy and short road. On average, it takes a Russian girl a few months of online dating to understand that she really likes you.

Things are not going to develop faster after that. First of all, if you want to make a good impression on her, you need to arrange your first date on your own. To do it in the best way, you need to understand what she likes and what kind of the first date she would enjoy.

Russian women can be initiators of dating, but generally with Russian men, who are lazy and who still thinks that women owe them the first step (the result of the WWII, when women started fighting over men's interest).

When it comes to western men, Russian women are never initiators of dating, they wait till men will make the first step. So, if you are into traditional dating where men have to make the first step, Russian girls is the right choice.

datingGift and flowers are also important when you're into Russian girls dating. For Russian women gifts are the expression of your attitude towards them, thus any flower or any kind of gift won't do. If you want to impress a Russian woman, you need to meet her expectations.

While articles on Russian dating are full of advices on what gifts Russian women expect from you, things are not that simple, as they seem. What matters is the personality of your Russian girlfriend. That's why you need to pay close attention to your conversations. If you are attentive enough, you can easily figure out what kind of flowers she likes. What kind of gift suits her the best. While one girl thinks that an expensive gift is the actual proof of your love, while another girl thinks that that mere attention is enough to see that she is important to you and that you care for her.

Attitude to Family

Emancipation took over the western world, thus child-free movements are common there. Western women who are obsessed with their careers often point out that they don't want to have babies because they just won't have enough time to take care of them. Still, some women are successful in combining both family and career.

The family remains the top priority for Russian women. Due to the patriarchal upbringing, woman's second goal after becoming a good wife is to become a good mother.

A family without children is an incomplete family for Russian women. Russian woman feels like a freak if she can't deliver a baby.

Also, Russian culture is known for self-sacrifice. In women, this aspect turned into complete commitment and devotion to their families and their children. That's why Russian women are considered to be great wives and mothers.


The United States are known for the cult of own comfort so American women rarely try to impress their boyfriends by how they look. A typical American girl goes out with a minimal makeup wearing casual clothes. This is mainly because the inner world and life achievements mean for American women more than their look or outfit.

While Russian women also consider inner world more valuable than appearance, their appearance means a lot for them. There's a Russian proverb which can be translated as “Met by clothes, seen off by ”. In real life, it is hard to make the first impression by your intellect because at first you will be examined visually.

A typical Russian girl won't leave her home without a makeup. Russian women spend a lot of time taking care of their appearance. Russian women like fashionable clothes. Moreover, Russian ladies wear expensive dresses and high-heeled shoes on a daily basis. In Russia, you can often see women in expensive outfits on the public transport. Such attitude to appearance mixed with Russian girls' natural attractiveness makes western men crazy about them.

Education and Religious Belief

Education in the American culture is not as compulsory as in Russian culture. Education was kind of prestige during the Soviet times, and for the vast majority of people graduating from the university was the main goal in life. The vast majority of women in Russia are educated, having bachelor’s or master’s degree. Over 80% of Russian school graduates enter the university.

Religion is one of a few things that Americans and Russians have in common as religion is highly important for both of the nations. The vast majority of Russians are orthodox Christians. Although the religion is important for Russian women, because of the self-sacrifice aspect of their culture, they are flexible. In terms of marriage, she won't insist on converting her husband to the Russian Orthodox Church. Because any Russian woman is ready to leave everything for her man, she would be eager to convert to his faith, be it another denomination of Christianity or a different religion such as Islam or Judaism.

So, as you can see beauty is one of the reasons why western men are interested in Russian women, but the role of Russian beauty is a little bit exaggerated. Beauty can work as the primal attraction, but other qualities of Russian women mean much more to western men. They are women who are able to handle their careers, while being busy with housekeeping and raising children, and still remain beautiful. So, if you date a Russian girl, you are that close to get a perfect wife and a perfect mother for your future children.


Of course, if you compare American women and Russian girls, then there are a lot of differences, the most important of which is feminism and how patient or not women are to their beloved. America, in fact, is the founder of this movement. If feminists are quite rare in Russia, then in the States there are tens of millions of them. On the one hand, it’s certainly good that girls fight for their rights, but in the United States, it sometimes takes ugly forms that will never happen in Russia.

This is probably due to the national and cultural differences of Russians vs Americans. A Russian woman always remains a woman no matter what. A Russian woman should go to a store or work, be well-groomed and beautiful, in America it is the other way round, there you can meet an American who went to the store shaggy and in her nightie. Therefore, for men, Russian girls will always be more attractive, and more feminine than Americans.

So, if you compare Russian girls vs American girls, the first is ready to much more sacrifice than the US females. They rarely put their own priorities over somebody’s and prefer to be patient to their partner rather than prove him wrong or require the carrying out of their own wishes. They think about the family and a beloved in the first place.

Mannersrussian beuty

It can not be said that the Russians lack manners in the US sense. They have manners, they just are not quite the same as in the rest of the world. For example, Japanese is likely to tell you something like: “Could you please open the window?”, And the Englishman will limit himself to a shorter one: “Could you open the window?”, The Russian will come up with a short: "Open the window, please" - and thereby save a lot of time and energy. 

Good manners include a quiet voice, calm gestures and not too defiant clothes. However, the Russians will not be embarrassed to express their overwhelming feelings in a public place. For example, if you don’t like the service a store or restaurant, you can tell the seller or waiter everything you think about him, his relatives, close and distant ones, his habits and sexual preferences. It is what differs Russian women vs American women because the second will simply smile into your face then open the client's book and leave the dirtiest review or comment on the web-page of a restaurant rather than perform a drama scene in public.

When it comes to Russia, you can hear the most diverse opinions about its people. There is, however, one thing almost all foreigners agree on - this is the mystery and inexplicability of the “Russian soul” and their manners. Foreigners often quote Winston Churchill, who said: "Russia is a puzzle wrapped in a secret inside a riddle." Of course, saying so is much easier than trying to understand, just claim that Russian character is beyond formal logic and cannot be studied. However, the same work for many nations, Americans included. But their incomprehensibility is perceived more easily: they are exotic and somewhat distant, you can’t do anything about it, you don’t even need to delve into it. But there is a special relation to everything Russian as something “alien” and incomprehensible.

For example, many Russians living abroad are struck by cases when there is a noisy party at the neighbors’, but other people living nearby will never come to sort things out and ask to be quiet, they will call the police. Russians condemn this style of behavior, for them it is cowardice, malignancy, and even "squealing." It does not even occur to them that such behavior is dictated by the right of any person to the inviolability of his physical and psychological territory. No one has the right to encroach on this - except for the police. This is an example of typical Russian manners.

Respect to traditions

Another difference between American women vs Russian women is their attitude toward marriage and traditions. If a Russian proverb says that a man must plant a tree, build a house and raise a son, then the Russian girl must graduate from school, get married and have a baby. In the States, everything is completely different. Americans are windier and at the same time more serious about marriage. American women, as a rule, are looking for a partner for a long time, for some women, this can take quite a long time. The Americans do not have such a tradition to get married just because it is necessary. Therefore, weddings in the States, for the most part, are made by those who are already over 30 years old, and people often have their first child even at 40 years old.

A Russian woman, for many years, can constantly look after her husband, that is, wash his clothes, cook his food, raise children, completely giving herself to the family, even if the husband is completely worthless. In the States, everything is completely different, if a man does not suit a woman, she simply leaves him, being sure that she will find another. This self-confidence is due to the fact that, as a rule, Americans by the age of 30 have a fairly well-paid job, and will not tolerate a man who is a lazy person or a drunkard.

But even independent women in Russia have maintained faith in a strong man. This coin has two sides. On the one hand, Russian women retain the charm of the weaker sex, which American ladies are deprived of. Feminism strengthened abroad, erased the line between the sexes. On the other hand, a Russian woman will not share a bill in a cafe. In Russia, this is customary - a man pays for a companion.

Comments (2)
mark D hess
very interesting, im in a long distance relationship with a russian girl. she will be coming to be with me this year.
08.10.2018 16:05
Great information I learn a lot about Russian women
19.11.2018 08:38

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