Russian girls are pretty old-school in their views on dating. If you want to impress your Russian date, you should know the basics of Russian dating culture that is slightly different from Western one. Russian style of dating is very traditional and local women and men have been keeping to it for centuries. It is based on wooing a girl and doing your best to win her heart. The following tips will help you follow the rules of Russian dating etiquette.
A gentleman is a kind of man each woman is dreaming of. Russian men are chivalrous, so you should be as gallant as possible in order to be up to the mark. Act gentlemanly when you are on a date with a Russian girl and you’ll win her heart at once. Help her get out of a taxi or car, open and hold a door and let her go first, help her take her coat off, pull out the chair so that she can sit, etc. Also, when you walk, offer her your arm – she will like that gesture.
It may seem old-fashioned to you, but kissing a woman’s hand when meeting or greeting her is a gentlemanly gesture in Russia. Kissing her on her chick, unless it’s not the first date, will be too boldly. Not every woman would like hugging, so make a good first impression by holding and kissing her hand softly.
It is customary both for men and women to dress sharp for a date. A Russian girl will expect to see a smartly dressed man. You should understand that a T-shirt and sneakers will be out of place. Women like the men wearing shirts and jackets so please your date showing up in those garments.
Apart from being well-dressed, you should also smell good. Remember about pre-date grooming. Generally, Russian girls like men with three days’ stubble but it’s better to shave so that she won’t think you are careless about how you look. Make sure your hair and beard (if any) are clean and neatly cut. Put on some cologne to finish your image. The main rule concerning perfumes is not to overdo with them. Choose some fresh and light scent and apply it moderately; don’t make your date suffocate in a cloud of your cologne.
Although flowers are optional in Western countries, in Russia they are a must on a date. Keep in mind that only the odd number of flowers is acceptable. Also, avoid bringing yellow flowers since they are the symbol of parting. The best first-date choice will be a single red rose; bouquets are more appropriate for special occasions.
It goes without saying that you should mind your table manners if your date takes place at a restaurant. Be courteous to your woman as well to people around wherever you are. Russian women want a well-mannered man by their side who knows how to behave and who will not embarrass them at a social event.
A man is supposed to be a leader during a date. That means he should initiate topics and keep the ball rolling. There are some topics that are considered inappropriate on a date. One of them is talking about your exes, especially if it’s the first date. There are many things to discuss apart from it. Of course, small talk will not be enough. It is a good idea to talk about each other’s interests, hobbies, opinions on some phenomena etc. The main thing to do is to keep a positive atmosphere and avoid too personal conversations unless you both feel like it.
Don’t be surprised if a Russian girl will not offer to split the bill. She thinks that a real gentleman always pays for dinner and if she offers him to go Dutch, she’ll offend him. Even if she does offer, insist on paying because she may be testing you in such a way.