Asian ladies have always attracted men’s attention, but most of them don’t want it. The thing is that a lot of guys just don’t know how to approach an Asian beauty. As a result, they end up saying something weird or even creepy, something they would never say to a European or American woman.
And there’s no proper explanation to this. Maybe these ladies’ beauty leaves men stunned, so they can’t come up with better words. But maybe it’s all about depicting Asian girls as horny and submissive in TV shows and movies. Anyway, you can try to make use of it. This article will help you with dating women in person and on Asian dating sites.
Each nation has its own unique attributes and peculiarities. Here are three cultural aspects of Asian girls that guys will definitely appreciate.
She perfectly combines her job with house chores. She never complains about her husband's income and tries not to get between him and his relationships with relatives and friends. She’ll react quite calmly if instead of a romantic date, her boyfriend or spouse will spend the evening watching TV. Of course, she won’t like it just as any other woman, but she’ll never start a scandal because of it. She’ll calmly and respectfully inform her man that she was upset by his actions the next day.
There are a lot fewer divorces in Asia than in Europe or the US. For every Asian, dating plays more important role than for other nations, and marriage is something that happens only once in a lifetime. Therefore, an Asian wife will never allow herself to belittle her husband in front of other people. She won’t discuss intimate details of her family life with her friends. Even if she tells a couple of secrets, her Asian friend will never tell anyone about it.
In some Asian countries, it’s customary to have many children. Sure, times and morals are changing. You can meet a family who has only one child, but this is still a rarity. For example, in an average Balinese family, there may be three or even more children.
First of all, it should be mentioned that dating a girl who lives in Asia and dating one, who was born in the US or Europe, are completely different things. But still, there’s a list of steps you should follow when dating an Asian lady, no matter where she lives.
1) Treat your woman not as an Asian, but as a person
All people are unique and wish to be treated as individuals; they don’t want to be appreciated just for being a part of some group or their nationality. Before you start flirting with an Asian lady by saying that you like Japanese girls, think about what these words can mean to her. You basically say that you like her not for her character traits, personality, or some other attributes that make a person an individual, but for something she has nothing to do with.
That’s why, no matter where you met, on an Asian dating site or at the bar, try not to use words “Asian” or “Asia,” at least for the first few hours. Sure, there may be moments when saying these words is completely normal, and it’s easy to tell if the moment is right. In other cases, try to avoid them. This can help you stay focused on your companion’s individuality and not her race.
2) Don’t start guessing where she is from
Trust us, when approaching hot Asian women for the first time, there’s nothing more stupid than starting to guess their native country. There are even men who try greeting them in one of the Asian languages, which almost always sounds awful and feels embarrassing. And these guys don’t realize that the just said hi in Japanese to a girl of Chinese descent, who lived her whole life in Boston.
3) If you love her culture, don’t tell about it right from the start
Of course, showing interest in foreign cultures is completely normal. Most guys, who prefer Asian women, know a lot about Japanese culture and like it. If you’re one of such guys, awesome! This culture is truly a unique and interesting one. But the thing is that you shouldn’t tell your new Asian friend about your passion for Japanese movies and cartoons. You probably wouldn’t be the first guy to tell her about it, and the only thing you can achieve with such move is making her think that you’re one of these Asian-loving weirdoes.
4) Remember that they are harder to pick up than you might think
You may have heard that Asian ladies are easy to pick up. Well, it’s nothing but a myth that came from TV shows and movies. Even those girls, who were born and raised far away from their native countries, are more conservative than their Western counterparts, not to mention ladies that grew up in Asia.
For Asian women, dating is also a serious step, so you can forget that picking them up will be easy. These girls are just like any other girls, so be prepared for a small challenge. Be as witty and charming as possible, keep fit, look after yourself. All ladies love gentlemen.
5) Down with the stereotypes
For some reason, some men believe that ladies from Asia are servile and submissive. Those guys, who look for women that will be glad to clean the house, raise children, cook, and so on, think that Asian girls are perfect for this. This assumption has nothing to do with the reality. Well, maybe these women are closer to such life than Western ones, but there’s still a lot of stuff to consider. Asia gets closer and closer to the West in terms of equality of men and women.
To sum it up, let’s say that if you’re dating an Asian girl who was born in the Western country, she won’t be different than other women you had relationships with. And men, who are looking for an Asian lady just because they want a submissive woman, will be disappointed.
Here is the list of phrases that every Asian girl would like to never hear again. Read these phrases and try to avoid them when you meet Asian women.
1) Where are you from? Are you Japanese or Chinese?
It’s the worst thing you can ask when speaking to an Asian girl. First of all, she could be from your country; besides, there is a dozen of other Asian countries in the world.
2) Why is your figure so slim?
It’s true, there are a lot of Asian ladies with perfect bodies, and no one knows why. But it’s still not a reason to keep asking this question over and over again.
3) Can you, please, teach me origami?
Origami is the art of making different animals and other stuff of paper. It originated in Asia, but it doesn’t mean that all Asian women know it. It’s another stereotype.
4) So, what is your Chinese/Japanese name?
When moving to Europe or the US, most Asians keep their names. But an Asian girl, who grew up in California, is really named Kate, so don’t bother her with your dumb questions.
5) Your English is really good
Guys, if her English is as good as yours, she was probably born in an English-speaking country, so keep it in mind. But if you’re chatting on an Asian dating website, it may be a sign of a scammer.
6) Is it OK for you to marry non-Asians?
Why not? It all depends on people’s personal preferences. For Asian girls, dating and marrying non-Asians is completely normal.
Asian girls are not so different from Western ladies. So if you want to date an Asian woman, just try to treat her, first of all, as an individual, instead of following some false stereotypes.