Twenty years ago the American psychologist Arthur Aron and his colleagues conducted a survey for creating closeness in an experimental context.
He suggested two stranger people, a man and a woman, to answer the 36 specific questions together and after that they had to stare at each other during four minutes. You won't believe but in half-a-year these people were ready to get married!
Love is difficult to find and sometimes it takes years to find somebody close to your heart, however, if only 36 questions and 4 minutes are necessarily to understand whether you are for each other, why not to try?
Here are the 36 famous questions that unite lonely hearts divided into three sets, you can try it with your girlfriend, no matter where she is! The main thing is to do this together and have an eye-contact, if she is on the other side of the world, just video chat with her and start building your relationships now!
Whom would you like to invite for a dinner? You can choose anyone in the world.
If you were to become famous, what sphere would you choose?
Before making a phone call, do you usually rehearse what you are planning to say? Why?
How do you imagine your ideal day?
When was the last time you sang to yourself? And to anyone else?
If you were to live for 90 years and had the opportunity to save the mind or the body of the 30 years old for the remaining 60 years, what would you choose?
Do you have a secret feeling about how you will die one day?
Name three common traits that you and your partner have.
What are you most grateful for in your life?
If you could change anything in your bringing up process, what would that be?
Take four minutes to describe your life-story to your partner as detailed as possible.
If you could wake up tomorrow and realize that you had gained one new quality or ability, what would it be?
If a crystal ball could tell you the whole truth about you, your life, future or anything else, would you like to know it?
Do you have anything that you have been dreaming to do for a long time? Why have not you done that?
What is your main life achievement?
What do you value most in your friends?
What is your most cherished memory?
What is your most terrible memory?
If you got to know that you would die within a year, would you change anything in your life? Why?
What is friendship for you?
What are the roles of love and affection in the relationships for you?
Name 5 positive traits of your partner.
How close are the members of your family? Do you consider your childhood happier than of anyone else's?
What do you think about your relationships with your mother?
Compose three true sentences beginning with "We", e.g. "We both in this room feel that ..."
Continue the phrase "I wish I had someone with whom I could share ..."
If you were to become a close friend with your partner, tell what he/she needs to know about you.
Tell your partner what you like about him/her. Be very honest, saying only things you might not tell to a stranger.
Share some unpleasant moment of your life with your partner.
What was the reason you cried in front of another person last time?
Tell your partner what you already like about him/her.
Do you have anything too serious in your life to be joked about? What is it?
If you were to die this evening and had no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told anyone? Why haven't you told them yet?
If your house to be burnt, and you have already saved all your relatives and pets but still have some time to get back and catch one thing, what would that be?
Whose death of your family would touch you most and why?
Share your personal problem with your partner and ask for his/her advice, then ask your partner to tell what he/she thinks about how you seem to be feeling about the chosen problem.
Still hard to believe that it works? You will never know until you try!