What to expect on a first date? The top 16 differences in the perception of men and women

Table of contents:

1. Women are ready to share their innermost
2. A man must take the initiative
3. Women tend to analyze
4. Women suffer because of little things
5. Women want a man to schedule their next date as soon as possible
6. Women are always more responsive and honest
7. Men prefer convenience even in courtship
8. Does the young lady make the first move? Guys like that
9. Excessive zeal does not please the man
10. Men need to say or give a signal clearly
11. Men love the unattainable
12. Men have backups
13. Women are more prone to perversion
14. Male shyness
15. Both sexes have big requests for each other
16. Both men and women get nervous before a date

Jokingly, many believe that the more energetic sex comes from Mars, and women come from Venus. When it comes to dating, this hypothesis finds an explanation. Their expectations of dating and their partner are so different. And after all, the event’s success and whether there will be a continuation depends on it. Let’s look at the 16 differences in how girls and guys evaluate and perceive rendezvous.

1. Women are ready to share their innermost

Almost every woman is ready to share with her family and close friends how the date went. Moreover, she will share all the details, from the excitement and the search for outfits to her impressions afterward. But, of course, ladies tend to share private information, regardless of whether the date was successful for them or not. But, at the same time, they will notice all the details, tell what the admirer was wearing, what they took for dinner, whether it came to kissing, etc.

If the date was successful, they want to brag; if not, the ladies seek confirmation that he is not their best option.

Young men have a different perception of their dates. They don’t like to share details and personal information, and they don’t want to admit to their friends that they have fallen in love.

2. A man must take the initiative

The fair sex likes it, although they prefer equality, secretly still adhere to traditional values, where the man is always in charge. However, they will appreciate your assertiveness. So, when asking a lady for a date, find out what she prefers: pubs, bars, or something unusual. For example, it is possible to offer a classic cocktail bar; women usually like them.

3. Women tend to analyze

Women are subject to rigorous analysis of minor details, your slightest remark or comment. They try to understand what their partner thinks about them and whether he is interested in them. Ladies will even analyze how long their partner responds to a message.

Cavaliers will need help coming up with a text message and thinking about when to send it. Women should know that texting from the male sex is not an indicator of their mood, and for young men to remember that the lady is prone to analysis. So he should call and talk; the lady will appreciate this extra effort. 

4. Women suffer because of little things

The weaker sex tends to worry about all sorts of little things. Their worries don’t end with texting. They think about what to wear, what drinks or food to order, and whether they need to split the bill later. A gentleman should take the pressure off and take the initiative. Order wine, offer to choose a dish, and pay the bill himself, at least on the first date.

5. Women want a man to schedule their next date as soon as possible

When it comes to dating, ladies are more nervous. If the date goes well, they expect a friend to set a second date as soon as possible. If that doesn’t happen, the guy doesn’t rush to ask for a second date; they start to think they don’t like them and get sad.

The young men, for their part, are afraid of appearing too much in love, so they are in no hurry to schedule a second rendezvous. On the contrary, they think it is proper to wait while trying to look cold-blooded.

6. Women are always more responsive and honest

Men tend to hide their feelings, while women are more open and honest, no matter what it costs them. Let’s cite a guy and a girl’s review of the rendezvous as proof of this.

Lady’s response: “He smelled bad, and his appearance was as “impenetrable” as a slab of reinforced concrete. In the first minutes of the date, he started talking about who would win the upcoming elections. Very interesting? Then he asked to walk me in, but I was too worried and said no. We had a little fun at the end, but that was it. I don’t want to see him again.”

Cavalier’s response: “We had a good evening, we understood each other, and I hope to meet her again.”

7. Men prefer convenience even in courtship

Guys are known to be lazy, and it shows in how they go on dates. Although they may make an effort initially, convenience is their crucial point later. When dating is almost daily, they would rather have a partner within walking distance. 

So ladies don’t have to worry about whether their partner does not like them or if he has cooled down in his feelings. Maybe geography plays a role, and it’s just a problem of having to take an Uber for 45 minutes.

8. Does the young lady make the first move? Guys like that

Men always want to be in charge, but confident ladies turn them on. A woman can be the first to ask for a drink or a phone number. A gentleman can say about such a girlfriend that she is confident and assertive. Guys like these qualities, and a gentleman can respect his companion just for them. 

Therefore, the lady should be bold and take the first step. Perhaps it is such qualities as confidence and perseverance that a man is looking for in his future companion.

9. Excessive zeal does not please the man

Although men like the stubbornness and assertiveness of ladies, there is a limit to everything, and it is important not to cross that line. A strong accent can push a young man away from a woman. There are too many text messages, brief introductions to friends and parents, and discussions of marriage and children.

A woman in a similar situation will behave similarly. If the guy on the second date swears eternal love, it may cool her feelings. So the advice is this. You don’t need strong assertiveness, be a little cooler to keep your attention and be more desirable.

10. Men need to say or give a signal clearly

Men do not tend to analyze body language or correspondence. So regardless of how the lady flirts or what she looks like, he can need clarification. For example, a guy may doubt whether she likes him or wants to go out with him again. 

That’s why it’s better to make it clear to him with a simple message. For example, tell him that you had a good time. Such a simple phrase can do wonders for a man’s ego.

11. Men love the unattainable

Men are hunters by nature, meaning they like to chase the unattainable. A woman should be elusive, a mystery. She should be challenging to conquer. The male gender focus is always on a goal - it could be a new phone, a career ladder, or a woman. No matter what, they see courtship as achieving a goal.

So the beautiful woman, if she wants to create intrigue, should say that she is busy when the guy tries to ask her out. It will attract his interest, and you must allow him to reach his goal. After that, both of them are responsible for maintaining the relationship.

12. Men have backups

Men tend to keep several women as backups. At the same time, they can date in parallel with each other. It happens in the early stages of dating when the guy is still undecided. It may seem disrespectful to the opposite sex, but the young man hides his vulnerability in this way. He won’t be pleased if the woman he has invested all his emotions in changes his mind and breaks off the relationship.

13. Women are more prone to perversion

Everything goes well on the date over food and drinks, but the woman gets carried away and does something she thinks she shouldn’t have done. She believes it turned the man off, and he won’t want to date again. She keeps calling the man to see if he still loves her. What about him? He thinks the date went extremely well and wants to see her again and again.

14. Male shyness

Sometimes young people can be so shy that they find it extremely difficult to cope with the excitement before a first date. A guy may even hide in the bathroom at a restaurant to delay the meeting. And outwardly, he may remain too confident, even defiant. In this case, a woman can bring him to his senses and talk in a way that calms him down. 

15. Both sexes have big requests for each other

Sometimes the demands of the opposite sex can be fantastic. For example, a young man wants to find an erudite blonde 28 years old who earns 10% less than he does. She is successful, but not like him. She understands inverse square roots and is the third man in cricket.

Women, too, have high requests for the opposite sex. Most often, they want a tall, dark-haired, handsome man. There are some outlandish requests. For example, to get engaged to a Bora Bora Islander.

16. Both men and women get nervous before a date

First dates are not yet a relationship with another person but an encounter with one’s inner processes: fears, hopes, complexes, and family scenarios. They can discover the partner later, but interest is conditioned mainly by how much they have helped to meet an essential part of themselves.

A psychologically mature and socially established man will seek, above all, emotional resonance with a woman. After all, love life allows him to develop a side of his personality that is usually not involved in social activities. If the first date doesn’t hook him, he won’t go on the second one. Therefore, it is essential for everyone, although it does not guarantee a happy ending to the whole story. It is only an occasion to show the best there: creativity, spontaneity, and willingness to look at oneself differently.